Three years ago, on March 25, 2011, I became a mother to a beautiful baby girl, Kendall. Kendall filled my life with so much love and laughter. Most importantly, she made me a better woman. In my mind, I knew that I wanted more children but for the moment she was all that my husband and I ever needed. Now, let’s fast forward to October 2013…I started to get the “I need another kid” feeling. I would strike up conversations with my husband that maybe we should have another child. I definitely knew Kendall wasn’t going to be the only child. Who would she pick on? Who would she tell her secrets to? Who would she blame things on when she got in trouble? So, we decided it was time to get things moving. On December 26, 2013, we found out we were expecting another Parker. I thought that because we planned this child that things would be easier. I would be superwoman and everything would be just as it is on TV. Oh yeah! I definitely forgot to read the fine print. Things are never as they appear on TV! I thought just because you plan to have children doesn’t mean that they will listen to everything you say or that you will not walk around like you belong in a 1950’s zombie movie. On Labor Day, I went into labor! Already, I can tell that this kid is going to be the jokester of the family. I gave birth to another beautiful baby girl, Kali. Everything was going smoothly just until we got home. I no longer had the help of hospital staff and I now had another little being I was partly responsible for.
The first two weeks consisted of sleepless nights and an overly, helpful three year old who would come home from a full day of school still full of energy — (note to self: request that Kendall stays up during nap time so she will go to sleep as soon as she gets home). Oh! Did I mention that grad school picked back up three days after I finished pushing out a 6-pound baby. In addition to all of this, I had to somehow juggle being an attentive wife, launching a children’s online store and maintaining my sanity.
While things were moving fast, I was literally getting lost in the moment. There were times when exhaustion and frustration of not being able to give my three year old all the attention that she was used to would outweigh the happiness of being the mother to two beautiful girls. I remember after a friend sent a text to check on me instantly the tears began to flow. I realized that I was off track and that I needed to pray in order to gain clarity. I assumed that I was going to be able to jump into being a mom again with no problem. But the truth is that being a new mom again kind of feels like the first time. Although, I had my first child only three years ago, it feels different because I had to learn to share my attention and my love. I had to accept that I’m not a bad mom because sometimes I just want to tell my three year old to go play quietly in her room so that I can have uninterrupted time alone. I had to realize that it’s okay to lock myself in the bathroom and ignore a few cries as long as daddy is around.
So, my advice — whether this is your first , your second, or you’re working on kid number five, as mothers and women we have to realize that there is no such thing as being the perfect mother. We must not forget who we are and that we too need take a few timeouts just to keep a clear head in order to be the best mother that we can be.
We are keeping our eyes on 10-IS. Feather » printed hair leather « black golden leopardino » exotic and metal themes — 10 IS offers a timeless and refined collection with a special attention paid to colors and details.
‘A CONTEMPORARY AND URBAN BRAND, WHERE EACH MODEL, MADE FROM THE FINEST MATERIALS, IS DESIGNED FOR CHILDREN.’
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To shop this collection and see more look book images, go to www.10-is.com.
As some of you may already know, GapKids has teamed up with Kate Spade and Jack Spade for a limited collection of new favorites and perfect gifts. The collection will be on sale at select Gap stores and online at Gap.com October 30th just in time for the holiday season.
Gap has already collaborated with big-name fashion designers for kids’ collections such as Diane von Furstenberg and Stella McCartney — which we’ve seen the most adorable pieces. So, we can already imagine Kate Spade styles will include bright colors and girlish details. While Jack Spade will include, simple and classic styles for the preppy little boy. Neither brands have ever branched into kidswear but we are sure you will not be disappointed.
So, take this as a warning! Get in the store or online first!
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, a campaign in the United States founded in 2006 byPACER’s National Center for Bullying Prevention. The campaign unites communities nationwide to educate and raise awareness of bullying prevention. fohr is stepping up and supporting anti-bullying efforts in a BIG way. Throughout the month of October, fohr will launch several videos and photoshoot campaigns across social media outlets aimed to bring awareness to this important issue facing our youth. This month serves as a reminder that bullying prevention must be addressed, and one way to accomplish this is through educating ourselves, our communities and the youth in our lives.
According to stopbullying.gov, an anti-bullying awareness organization, bullying is defined as “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.”
Our first step towards raising awareness is demonstrated in this video featuring international model and singer, Liane V., and child model, Krischelle Delgado. Krischelle is F.A.B! She’s the (F.A.B) Future Against Bullying! Krischelle is a strong activist against bullying and will continue to spread anti-bullying awareness to all youth worldwide. We support her and will continue to help spread the word.
Bullying can significantly affect you in so many different ways. You may lose sleep, become depress, lose confidence, feel hopelessness or just plain feel sick. You may want to skip school, activities, events, sports, or family gatherings. Do not let bullying affect or take control of your life! Stand up and be strong! You are beautiful! Tell an adult, teacher, coach, principal, family member, or older sibling. There are so many preventative measures you can take so you don’t fall victim to bullying. If you are feeling hopeless, helpless or know someone that is, please call the LIFELINE at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).